Claire Sibonney https://fashionmagazine.com Canada's #1 Fashion and Beauty Magazine Tue, 16 May 2023 15:22:05 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.9.3 No One Is Having More Fun Than Martha Stewart in Her 80s https://fashionmagazine.com/flare/celebrity/martha-stewart-age/ Tue, 16 May 2023 15:08:45 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=455478 This article was originally published on August 31, 2022 and has been updated.  TikTok beauty influencer. CBD gummy entrepreneur. Low-key party animal, first-time restaurateur and, now, Sports Illustrated swimsuit cover star. Media mogul Martha Stewart is feeling herself, living it up and still making serious bank—at age 81. From her coastal grandmother aesthetic (which she […]

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This article was originally published on August 31, 2022 and has been updated. 

TikTok beauty influencer. CBD gummy entrepreneur. Low-key party animal, first-time restaurateur and, now, Sports Illustrated swimsuit cover star. Media mogul Martha Stewart is feeling herself, living it up and still making serious bank—at age 81.

From her coastal grandmother aesthetic (which she rebukes for the record), to her genuinely close friendship with Snoop Dogg, the model-turned-stockbroker-turned-caterer-turned-DIY-icon continues to delight and surprise us.

Here are just a few of the reasons why Stewart is having the last laugh.

 

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Her social media posts are an exercise in self-love

Ever since the famously reserved Stewart stunned fans by posting her first smouldering thirst-trap from her East Hamptons pool last July, she’s been leaning into the pure joy that is her selfie game. Just a few weeks ago, for her 81st birthday, she shared a shot of her gravity-defying face—revealing a little bit of tipsiness and a whole lot of confidence.

In true DIY fashion, Martha Stewart also generously shares her hot tips which anyone can use at any age: “Just look good and pose with a provocative look on your face,” she tells Insider. Her smize would make Tyra Banks proud.

 

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She’s still checking off her life goals

Stewart is a savvy businesswoman. She modeled—for Chanel among others—from her teens to her early twenties to supplement her Barnard College scholarship. She’s published 97 cookbooks to date. At one time, she was worth a billion dollars. She’s never needed her own restaurant, but she’s always wanted one, so why not now? At the media luncheon for her first ever full-service eatery, The Bedford by Martha Stewart at Paris Las Vegas,  the doyenne of domesticity recreated a larger-than-life replica of her upstate New York farmhouse. (Unfortunately, sans roaming peacocks and donkey baths.) It’s an ode to the home Stewart has lived in for more than 20 years, where she spent the early part of the pandemic concocting Martha-ritas, and where, 17 years ago, she served the five-month home confinement part of her sentence for insider trading. (Her prison nickname was M. Diddy). If Martha Stewart has taught us anything, it’s that it’s never too late to rebrand, no matter your age.

 

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She’s having more fun with fashion

The dame of good taste has always had iconic style, but in her golden years, she’s taking on more risks—and glitter. At The Bedford opening party, Stewart wowed on the red carpet in a yellow, feathered Valentino gown. She knows high fashion, but she can also go low. The next morning, her Instagram outfit of the day was a sparkly and inexpensive sweatsuit by Fashion Nova paired with matchy Simon Miller clogs. The OG influencer cleverly used this playful fashion moment on TikTok too, with a montage of her younger years to the track of the 2000s hit single “Teenage Dirtbag.”

 

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Her youthfulness is also a state of mind 

Stewart is a knockout who clearly takes her looks seriously (her very expensive face looks a few decades younger than it really should), but she has no trouble poking fun at herself, which makes her even more appealing.In a series of chic-yet-hammy TikTok beauty videos she starred in for Clé de Peau earlier this year, she plays along with her famous “it’s a good thing” meme and  “parodies not only herself but the whole idea of hard-sell beauty ads,” writes the New York Times. From her “thirst trap 101” explainer to her viral “recipe for hydrated skin,” Martha Stewart is pumping out the beauty content, and we can’t get enough. The latter has been viewed more than 48 million times.

 

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She hasn’t given up on love (and odd friendships)

It might still surprise people that the octogenarian queen of crafting is friends with Snoop (not to mention Drake and Justin Bieber), but the pair have been consistently showing up to support each other for years. They hit it off when he came on her show to make “green”  brownies for Christmas and they’ve since collaborated on many fun business projects together, including her eponymously named wine on his 19 Crimes label: Martha’s Chard.

And even though Stewart laughed off rumours she was dating her longtime friend, Pete Davidson, 28,  after he and Kim Kardashian split up,  she’s been open about wanting a romance in her life, joking that she’s waiting for her friends to “just die” so she can date their husbands.

For Martha Stewart, aging can also be “a good thing” and it’s never too late to try something new.

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All Our Favourite Looks from the 2022 Emmys https://fashionmagazine.com/style/celebrity-style/emmys-2022-red-carpet/ Tue, 13 Sep 2022 13:00:15 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=456099 The biggest night in TV has come and gone again, and with it, a parade of glamourous looks on the Emmys 2022 red carpet in downtown Los Angeles on Monday night. Hosted by Saturday Night Live star Kenan Thompson, the 74rd Primetime Emmy Awards celebrated the best in television with shows such as Succession, White […]

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The biggest night in TV has come and gone again, and with it, a parade of glamourous looks on the Emmys 2022 red carpet in downtown Los Angeles on Monday night.

Hosted by Saturday Night Live star Kenan Thompson, the 74rd Primetime Emmy Awards celebrated the best in television with shows such as Succession, White Lotus, Ted Lasso, Euphoria, Abbott Elementary and Squid Game.

While this year’s nominees, presenters and other celebrity guests donned the classic designers such as Louis Vuitton, Dior and Gucci, there were also some delightful surprises: Elle Fanning wore an exquisitely handcrafted gown by The Great’s costume designer, Sharon Long (who won an Emmy herself last week), Selma Blair made an unexpected and stunning appearance, and fellow Canadian Seth Rogen matched his tux to his bleached hair (to stand out amid all the other white suits).

From Zendaya—who made history as the youngest two-time Emmy winner—to Hoyeon Jung and Julia Garner, check out some of the glitzy evening’s best-dressed.

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The Best Red Carpet Looks at TIFF 2022 https://fashionmagazine.com/style/celebrity-style/tiff-2022-red-carpet/ Fri, 09 Sep 2022 13:23:05 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=455917 The Toronto International Film Festival is happening, but all we can think about is Queen Elizabeth II, who died on the first day. The modern monarch and style icon taught everyone from plebeians to celebrities a thing or two about a red-carpet walkabout. And like they say, the show—in this case the TIFF 2022 red […]

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The Toronto International Film Festival is happening, but all we can think about is Queen Elizabeth II, who died on the first day. The modern monarch and style icon taught everyone from plebeians to celebrities a thing or two about a red-carpet walkabout. And like they say, the show—in this case the TIFF 2022 red carpet—must go on.

As stars begin to descend on our city for Canada’s most glamourous event, we’re keeping our eyes out for A-listers such as Oprah, Jennifer Lawrence, Harry Styles, Taylor Swift, Viola Davis, Zac Efron and many more. (You can view the full guest list and TIFF 2022 schedule here.)

Below, some of the our favourite outfits seen on the TIFF 2022 red carpet so far.

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What Is a Burkini — and Why Has It Become Controversial? https://fashionmagazine.com/style/trends/what-is-a-burkini/ Fri, 26 Aug 2022 15:56:54 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=455297 When Aheda Zanetti, a Lebanese-Australian fashion designer, created the burkini for Muslim women in 2004, she probably didn’t expect it to continue making waves nearly 20 years later—for better and for worse. While women around the world are still discovering this modest and stylish way to feel confident at the pool or beach, the swimwear […]

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When Aheda Zanetti, a Lebanese-Australian fashion designer, created the burkini for Muslim women in 2004, she probably didn’t expect it to continue making waves nearly 20 years later—for better and for worse. While women around the world are still discovering this modest and stylish way to feel confident at the pool or beach, the swimwear is still stirring debate. 

Here’s what you need to know about the burkini:

What is a burkini?

If you keep up with fashion and the news, you’ve probably heard of the term burkini by now. The burkini is a combination of the words burqa (a modest outer garment that covers you up from head to toe) and bikini. Simply put, it’s a full-body swimsuit: modest, sleek and breathable. (With bonus UV protection!)

Zanetti designed it to give women a body-covering swimwear option that doesn’t require them to have to fumble with their own DIY outfits. 

 

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Of course, Muslim women have been going to the beach long before the burkini was invented, but their clothing options were limited. In the past, if you wanted to enjoy yourself in the sun, sand and sea, you would most likely have to make do with a baggy shirt and exercise leggings. 

But since then, other designers have jumped on the burkini bandwagon and the concept has continued to grow and break ground alongside the broader modest fashion movement as “an expression of faith, fashion and defiance.”

Case in point: In 2019, Kenyan-American model Halima Aden became the first Muslim model to appear in a burkini in the daring Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue.

The burkini has also since been adopted by non-Muslim women. That might be surprising to some, but shouldn’t be if you consider it’s not actually a religious clothing item. When it comes to style, think of it as scuba suit takes the runway. Many burkinis are designed with flattering skirts, as well as detachable elements to cover your hair. 

 

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So, why are burkinis controversial? 

Unfortunately, policing women’s bodies and what they choose to wear is nothing new. What was always meant to be a modest swimwear option is instead being seen as a political statement or even worse, a “threat.”  Recently, a Winnipeg woman and her two daughters were told they couldn’t enter the pool at Lilac Resort in Ste Anne, Man. because of what they were wearing. Halima Jelloul, her husband and children were approached by the owner who thought their outfits were streetwear, which is not allowed in the waterpark. He later apologized.

Unfortunately, similar scenes have played out across Canada and around the world. Due to ignorance and Islamophobia, many women have been targeted because of what they choose to wear at the beach or a swimming pool. France has a country-wide ban on burkinis and women in Italy can be fined up to 500 euros for wearing one.

“[People] have misunderstood the burkini swimsuit,” Zanetti told The New York Times in a 2016 interview. “Because the burkini swimsuit is freedom and happiness and lifestyle changes — you can’t take that away from a Muslim, or any other woman, that chooses to wear it.”

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Santa Fe Indian Market Celebrates 100 Years of Art, Fashion and Community https://fashionmagazine.com/style/santa-fe-indian-market-2022/ Fri, 26 Aug 2022 14:23:23 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=455100 Taking over the streets of downtown Santa Fe in white tents and technicolour outfits, the Santa Fe Indian Market celebrated 100 years this past weekend—and the event was filled to the brim with stunning displays of Indigenous art, fashion and culture. The New Mexican event included nearly 1,000 Indigenous artists from more than 200 nations […]

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Taking over the streets of downtown Santa Fe in white tents and technicolour outfits, the Santa Fe Indian Market celebrated 100 years this past weekend—and the event was filled to the brim with stunning displays of Indigenous art, fashion and culture.

The New Mexican event included nearly 1,000 Indigenous artists from more than 200 nations and communities across the United States and Canada, many of them first-timers and others whose families have been part of the Pueblo tradition for generations. It also attracted Indigenous and non-Indigenous visitors from all over the world.

Here were some of our favourite moments from Santa Fe Indian Market’s centennial:

Indigenous Fashion on Display

The two big fashion events, the Southwestern Association for Indian Arts (SWAIA) gala and fashion show, highlighted dozens of talented Indigenous designers on the runway, including several Canadian personalities: Lesley Hampton, Jason Baerg, Himikalas Pamela Baker, Yolanda Skelton, Sho Sho Esquiro, Skawennati and Dorothy Grant.

The sold-out events also featured celebrity models Jessica Matten, Kiowa Gordon,D’Pharoah Woon-A-Tie and Quannah Chasinghorse—the one-and-only land defender who recently made waves at the 2021 Met Gala.

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Street Market and Juried Art

As a juried market, each piece sold among the hundreds of white tents lining the downtown streets had to go through a rigorous approval process to ensure authenticity.

White Otter Designs’ Jaymie Campbell—who is Anishnaabe  originally from Curve Lake First Nation in Ontario—creates trillium-shaped beaded earrings and quill roll necklaces for the market. She says that the intense application process ensures the validity and quality of the artists’ work. “It also allows you to really get paid what pieces are worth, because people understand the value of the work and that was a difference I haven’t experienced before.”

Taking part in the market was “such a level up from anything that at least I’ve participated in,” says Campbell, who now lives in British Columbia. She drove down with a handful of other art market participants from the province, including custom moccasin maker Jamie Gentry). Campbell and her booth-mate Niio Perkins from Akwesasne Mohawk First Nation in New York state both sold out of their pieces within the first few hours of the market.

Other market participants included Elias Jade Not Afraid, an Apsaalooké bead artist from Montana who was selling large geometric beaded bags with dentalium shells and elk ivory, and a show-stopping purse with a blue rose beaded onto the smoked deer hide.

Juneau, Ala. beadwork artist Jill Kaasteen, who is Lingit, Chookanashaa, and Xunaa Kaawudax, was also there for the first time, showcasing the two iconic medallions she made for the TV series Reservation Dogs. The phallic-like necklaces, one shaped like a pickle and the other a microphone, were a key joke in a first season episode, and Kaasteen says that market-goers’ delight were the best part of the weekend. “It’s so fun to see people’s reactions recognizing it, and these are the exact pieces.”

Celebrity Spotting at “Indigenous Hollywood”

 

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This year’s event was a magnet for celebrity guests too, including Prey star Amber Midthunder, Reservation Dogs’ Woon-A-Tie, Dark Winds’ Jessica Matten, Kiowa Gordon and Zahn McClarnon, and Rutherford Falls’ Jana Schmieding and Sierra Teller Ornelas. Many of the stars were taking part in panels discussion on the future of Indigenous innovation, while others were found walking the runway shows and shopping in the market.

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Never Have I Ever’s Maitreyi Ramakrishnan on Season 3, Self-Love and ‘Brown Boy’ Stereotypes https://fashionmagazine.com/flare/tv-movies/maitreyi-ramakrishnan-never-have-i-ever-season-3-interview/ Tue, 16 Aug 2022 16:48:35 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=454821 Playing a high-schooler who is still in the throes of self-discovery came easily for Mississauga, Ont.-born actor Maitreyi Ramakrishnan, the 20-year-old actor who stars as Devi Vishwakumar on the Netflix series Never Have I Ever.  Ramakrishnan is the first to admit she’s personally evolved from the 17-year-old kid who debuted in the Mindy-Kaling-created show three […]

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Playing a high-schooler who is still in the throes of self-discovery came easily for Mississauga, Ont.-born actor Maitreyi Ramakrishnan, the 20-year-old actor who stars as Devi Vishwakumar on the Netflix series Never Have I Ever

Ramakrishnan is the first to admit she’s personally evolved from the 17-year-old kid who debuted in the Mindy-Kaling-created show three years ago, acting chops included. Devi is also maturing, while being tested with more dating drama. 

If last season had Devi deciding between two love interests, Paxton (Darren Barnet) and Ben (Jaren Lewison), this season has fans further divided with Des, the hot new brown boy in town, played by Anirudh Pisharody. He challenges the stereotype of being a boring, geeky-looking South Asian nerd — in fact, Devi wrongly presumes that too until she sets her sights on him. 

We caught up with Ramakrishnan to discuss season three, reconnecting with South Asian culture and how Devi has influenced her own style.

Devi is really tested this season. How would you describe season three?

Season one was about grief and then season two was about mental health. I think season three is definitely about self-love and self-respect for all the characters. Devi more so than anyone. 

How did you feel about exploring Devi’s journey this time around?

I think what I like about it is that she has grown. She’s doing things that she would have never done in season one… She’s really matured [and yet] she’s still up to the same kind of shenanigans. Like her MO is still there and she’s still a menace, but I think it’s nice to see her grow and take on new ways of coping with stress because it helps me as an actor to explore different avenues of the mind of this character.

How parallel is that for you since you took on this character?

From 17 to now 20, I feel like I’ve grown the most I ever have in my life. Just like Devi is growing immensely as a TV character does… I would say my life has definitely changed. I’m not the same person I was. 

 

Never Have I Ever. Maitreyi Ramakrishnan as Devi in episode 302 of Never Have I Ever.
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I love how the show dives into South Asian traditions every season. How did you reconnect with new cultural traditions this time around?

Having Ranjita [Chakravarty, who plays Devi’s grandmother Nirmala] around, I love her to death. Anytime I’m in a scene with her, I get very happy. This season, we have a whole Navratri [Hindu festival] episode, which is really cool. Anytime I get to work with costumes to create a new half-sari look, I get very excited. I know back in season one, when we did the half-sari look and a lot of fans really appreciated that because it wasn’t just a generic South Asian outfit or even a generic lehenga, or like a full sari, because that wouldn’t really make sense for a young girl. We made it specific for Devi, and we got to take another stab at it in season three. 

Devi has an interesting taste in fashion. How is your own personal taste in fashion compared with hers?

Devi and I honestly have very two different senses of fashion. Especially at the beginning of Never Have I Ever, I personally was someone who never wore colour. I really liked to stay away from colour for the most part. I still struggle to like match prints and stuff. Devi is on the whole other side of all the colour and all the accessories and necklaces and plaid and polka dots… But I will say that she has opened up colour for me. I think because I got to play around on set with different styles, I got to bring a little bit into my own life, but I still think I’m a little cooler than Devi. 

What’s your favourite look for Devi this season?

That’s a good question… I’m going to say the  children’s performer outfit just because it was funny. The blue, red and yellow. I like that. I thought that was nice. But while we’re here, I want to just say my favourite outfit of the entire show is definitely when I got to dress up like a boy to sneak back into school to apologize to an Aneesa. That was my favourite. No one really asks me this and I love to talk about it because that was awesome. 

One of the episodes deals with Devi being trolled. I’m curious, with the success and fame that has come with the show, how do you deal with trolls?

I do not try and seek out who the troll is. I try not to go on a whole investigation to figure out who the trolls are. I like to just let them be and let them do their thing. Just like Devi, you do get a little bothered by a troll…. [but] I don’t give them attention because they’re not worthy of your attention. I think it’s just better for me and my mental health. I tried to take Paxton’s advice. As Paxton said, “Just leave it. Who cares?”

The last episode is titled ‘Never Have I Ever Lived the Dream.’ What is the most surreal moment for you after you’ve had this iconic role playing Devi?

I think it’s everything that has happened to me so far. I never thought I would be an actor, let alone like you know, the lead of a hit Netflix show. Crazy. So I think because of that I didn’t even have this as a dream. Like it was never in the cards. But now I realize I am living the dream—a dream I just didn’t realize I could even make possible. So there’ve been a lot of surreal moments whether it’s press junkets like this or crazy photoshoots where I get to try on extravagant outfits. But if I had to boil it down, I would say for me, it’s [not just one moment but] every day I get to be on set. Nothing beats that feeling for me.

Just like John McEnroe does the voiceover for Devi, who would be the voice artist of your life?

I wish I had a better, funnier answer. But I only have a legitimate answer, that’s a little wholesome and that’s Mindy. I would really want Mindy. I mean, she’s seen me grow up now. She’s seen me grow up from that 17-year-old who walked in for her audition to now. And I feel like she would do a good job. She would definitely nail the comedic timing.

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People-Pleasing Made Me Invisible https://fashionmagazine.com/flare/identity-politics/people-pleaser/ Fri, 08 Oct 2021 14:47:56 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=437029 “I’d really rather talk about this in person,” I kept repeating over text, but each time it was like my partner didn’t hear me as she continued to type and hit “send.” This was one of those dating conversations that was best had face-to-face. But, my needs didn’t seem to matter and I let her […]

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“I’d really rather talk about this in person,” I kept repeating over text, but each time it was like my partner didn’t hear me as she continued to type and hit “send.” This was one of those dating conversations that was best had face-to-face. But, my needs didn’t seem to matter and I let her bulldoze over them.

Knowing your boundaries is one thing, but maintaining them is another. At the time, I wasn’t good at either. 

My ex, on the other hand, had such clear boundaries that she seemed like an impenetrable fortress. She unapologetically asserted her needs and maintained emotional walls that my inner anxious child was unable to scale, but tried desperately to. While taking stock of that failed relationship, I tried to understand the radical contrast between us. How was she able to maintain that emotional distance? To stay so emotionally affixed while I rode a rollercoaster of ups and downs? How had I let myself feel so broken by the end, as though she herself was the conductor of my emotional demise?

Was it possible to have too much empathy, to feel too deeply, I wondered? I googled “what is a people pleaser?” and immediately saw myself in the handful of characteristics that popped up: feeling responsible for other people’s feelings, not being able to say “no,” over-apologizing, being uncomfortable if  someone is mad at me, acting like the people around me, avoiding conflict.

In that moment, it all became clear: I was the opposite of my ex. I was a squishy, permeable amoeba — a people pleaser.

When it hit me, I felt stunned, outside of myself. It was like a kind of heartbreak and I went a bit numb from sadness. I started to come out of the closet about five years ago in my late 30s, after marrying a man and having a daughter. But this revelation felt even bigger to me than realizing that I was queer. I had unknowingly been performing a role for so long, so who was I, really? Knowing that my deep need to appease others was the underlying reason that coming out had taken me so long took a heavy emotional toll.

I was catapulted into a full breakdown, the crying-every-day kind, as I was very suddenly forced to confront myself again. I could finally see the logic that I subconsciously used as a child to decide that this was the person I should be. Growing up, my mother had been preoccupied  (understandably) with my older sibling’s health issues. Their needs seemed all-consuming and as the youngest child of three, I didn’t want to add to my mom’s pressure. In some ways, I had made myself invisible, even though deep down I had a desperate need to be seen. 

I remember getting in trouble with my mother once for drinking in Grade 9 and I didn’t even consider taking a sip again for years. I was a rule-follower. Nobody needed to tell me to behave; I had already internalized that message.

I felt the need to be a “good kid,” to not rock the boat. In grade school I earned the nickname “miss perfect” by a bully who must’ve seen how fully formed my perfectionism was at that young age, another effort at proving self-worth that plagues many people-pleasers. In high school I excelled academically and athletically, and continued  to do so in university, graduate school and beyond. 

Looking at myself with this fresh, objective lens, I truly hated the people pleaser I saw: a push-over; a scared little girl; someone who didn’t stand up for herself, who didn’t value herself and communicate that value to others; someone who put up with pain and disrespect for the sake of closeness and keeping a connection alive. 

I thought about how this had played out in my life, again and again, like the time a woman I was dating was a no-show at my 40th birthday. Not only did I accept a glib apology from her afterward, but after I angrily expressed how hurt I was, I was so worried that my honesty would push her away that I ended up gushing about the things I did appreciate about her. I couldn’t handle the discomfort of the conflict. But now, I can recognize that behaviour as something called “fawning,” a trauma response where a person by-passes their own needs or boundaries in order to create a sense of safety by avoiding conflict. At the time I feared that my true feelings might cause her to leave me. I had to pad my emotions with positivity, despite still being hurt and resentful. 

Dodging or reconciling disagreement is very typical for a people pleaser, who tends to use agreeability as a way to avoid stress. Apparently I was a textbook case, a fact I learned from reading about people-pleaser behaviour that basically outlined much of my personality and described these unhealthy relationship patterns. 

Books helped me to intellectually understand my people-pleasing behaviours and gave me practical tips for changing them, such as ways to stall a decision rather than saying “yes” immediately out of instinct, or how to phrase and repeat a boundary when it’s being challenged. But what helped me the most was counselling with my reiki practitioner. She helped me to get in touch with and finally listen to myself (meditating was a part of this), and to expose the stories I’d been telling myself my whole life that had made me repeat these patterns: that I shouldn’t have needs, that I should be who other people want me to be, that being worthy of and receiving love requires trying really hard for it. 

It might sound cheesy, but what I needed wasn’t so much psychological healing, it was spiritual healing. I couldn’t think myself out of this pain, I also needed to feel it. I had to revisit that child inside me who was still offering her emotional response to my adult experiences — emotions that I had numbed or did not understand how to process at the time, and had therefore become part of my unhealthy programming. 

It was like I had been walking around in a cloak of invisibility since childhood. Back then, it had protected me but, as an adult, it was suffocating. I had to let that younger version of myself know that she didn’t need to hide behind it anymore. It was safe to come out; I could protect her. It was scary to take it off, but that was the only way to finally stop ignoring and abandoning myself for other people. It was also the only way to finally be seen.

I’ve had to practice and redefine so many things that scared me before — all those things that signalled a lack of trust in, and love for, myself: from something as small as speaking out in a meeting without first worrying what other people might think, to bigger things like setting a boundary or having a difficult conversation with someone I’m dating. I realize that being a people pleaser has plagued me the most where the threat of loss is greatest — in those relationships where I fear that my needs will be too much. But as much as conflict and boundaries still might make me uncomfortable, I can now see them as things that can create intimacy and trust, rather than as a threat. I now know that having needs doesn’t have to mean the end of a relationship and if it does, then it’s not a healthy one anyway. I don’t hold on so tight anymore because I know that I’m OK on my own and that I will never abandon myself again.

It might sound strange, but I’m oddly looking forward to the first fight with my girlfriend, whom I’ve been with for the last few months. I joke with her about this, but it’s true — I want to take up space that I’ve never occupied, to make myself heard when I used to remain silent, to hold boundaries where I used to be porous, and to finally be seen after so many years of blending into the background. When that argument does inevitably happen, it will have to be in person, or else I won’t let it happen at all.

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Iconic American Style Reigned Supreme at the 2021 Met Gala https://fashionmagazine.com/style/met-gala-2021-red-carpet/ Tue, 14 Sep 2021 00:39:37 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=435350 After a year hiatus, the fashion world’s “Oscars” have finally arrived on the Met Gala 2021 red carpet, and boy was it worth the wait. From Lil Nas X’s transformation into a golden suit of armour to Billie Eilish’s nostalgic ode to Holiday Barbie, Vogue editor-in-chief Anna Wintour got exactly what she wished for on […]

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After a year hiatus, the fashion world’s “Oscars” have finally arrived on the Met Gala 2021 red carpet, and boy was it worth the wait.

From Lil Nas X’s transformation into a golden suit of armour to Billie Eilish’s nostalgic ode to Holiday Barbie, Vogue editor-in-chief Anna Wintour got exactly what she wished for on the Met Gala 2021 red carpet. “I’m so grateful for the effort people make and how much fun they seem to have and how fearless they are on the Met Gala carpet,” Wintour declared on the Vogue.com livestream. “It’s a beacon call for individuality.”

This year’s evening, co-chaired by Amanda Gorman, Timothée Chalamet, Billie Eilish and Naomi Osaka, celebrates the Costume Institute’s latest exhibition, “In America: A Lexicon of Fashion.” The patriotic theme came through in both subtle and not-so-subtle ways. On the far end of the spectrum, Gorman worked with Vera Wang on a look inspired by the Statue of Liberty, including a handbag that read, “Give us your tired.” Congresswoman Amanda Ocasio Cortez followed suit wearing a white gown with the message “Tax the Rich” on the back by Canadian Aurora James of Brother Vellies. Other guests on the Met Gala 2021 red carpet took a less obvious approach such as JLo’s modern cowgirl couture by Ralph Lauren and Lorde’s embellished Bode ensemble.

But American fashion wasn’t all that was celebrated with plenty of Dior, Valentino and Versace in the air. And Canadian fashion got an unexpected shout out when a commentator asked Grimes, who was poured into a gown by Holland’s Iris Von Herpen, why she had left Canadian fashion behind. “I’ll always be a part of Canadian fashion because Canadian fashion is sick,” she shot back.

Scroll through the Met Gala 2021 red carpet gallery for the most memorable appearances.

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Health Canada Just Approved the Birth Control Arm Implant https://fashionmagazine.com/wellness/nexplanon-birth-control-implant-canada/ Tue, 26 May 2020 22:57:46 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=431533 We talked to one of Canada’s leading contraception experts about Nexplanon and what this means for Canadian birth control options

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People around the world have been raving about their birth control implants for years—and by the end of this year Canadians will no longer need to miss out. The popular contraceptive Nexplanon has finally officially been approved by Health Canada.

“[Nexplanon] is available in more than 100 countries worldwide and has been for many years,” says Dr. Amanda Black, the chair of the Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecolgosists of Canada’s contraceptive awareness program. “It’s exciting that we will finally have this available to [people] in Canada. The more options you have, the more likely you are to find a method of contraception that works for you.”

Nexplanon is a three-year contraceptive implant that is inserted into the upper arm via a small puncture, which can be done in your doctor’s office or by a trained practitioner at a clinic—and (typically) can be removed just as easily with a small incision. The flexible plastic rod—about the size of a matchstick—releases a low dose of etonogestrel, a form of progestin or synthetic progesterone. The medication works by stopping an egg from being released by your ovary and preventing sperm from reaching the egg. It also changes the lining of your uterus to help prevent implantation.

Here’s what else you need to know about this new-to-Canada birth control.

Why wasn’t Nexplanon approved in Canada until now?

In the past, Merck—the drug company that produces Nexplanon—did not have recent enough clinical trial research to satisfy Health Canada’s requirements, but mounting public pressure for the implant, and persistence from the manufacturer, played a part in reversing that decision. “At the end of the day, it’s been well studied in other countries, certainly post-approval,” says Black. “And [people] in Canada should have access to similar contraceptive methods that are available in other countries.”

When will Nexlpanon be available in Canada?

Even though it’s received the green light by Health Canada, the birth control implant likely won’t be readily available for several months. “Health care providers need to be trained on insertion and removal,” explains Black. It’s also unclear how the COVID-19 pandemic will affect supply.

How much will Nexplanon cost?

The cost of Nexplanon in Canada hasn’t yet been released. And drug prices in Canada can vary greatly compared with other countries, so there’s no point in searching how much it costs in the U.S., TBH. (For example, a hormonal IUD costs between $395 to $500 in Canada, while in the U.S. getting one can cost anywhere between $0 to $1,300 USD.)

What’s the difference between the birth control implant and an IUD?

The discreet arm implant doesn’t replace the need for IUDs, it just gives women another option, Black says. Nexplanon lasts for three years and potentially longer, as opposed to five years for a hormonal IUD. “If someone, for whatever reason, prefers not to  have an IUD inserted [vaginally] or if they don’t want a pelvic exam, this provides another option for those who still want a long-acting method of contraception,” she adds.

Is Nexplanon safe?

Implants are safer for people who can’t otherwise take estrogen for a number of health reasons, including being at higher risk of stroke and blood clots. “One of the nice things about it is that we have not just the clinical trials data but we have real-world data at this point, so we can say it appears to be a safe and effective method of contraception,” Black says.

How effective is Nexplanon?

The implant is more than 99% effective. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, long-acting reversible contraceptives like IUDs and implants are up to 20 times more effective at preventing pregnancy than birth control pills, the patch or the vaginal ring because you don’t have the daily, weekly or monthly hassle of remembering to do something. “It’s a ‘forgettable’ type of contraceptive,” Dr. Black says.

How long does it take for Nexplanon to start working?

If it’s inserted within the first five days of your period, it’s effective immediately, explains Black. “If it’s inserted at another time, you just have to make sure that you’re using a backup method of contraception for a week afterwards.”

Can you feel the implant once it’s in?

Yes, you can feel the little rod in the upper inner arm. But Black says that’s a good thing: “We want you to feel it, because then you know you have to take it out as well,” she says. That said, the Nexplanon device is only about 4 cm long and very thin, so it shouldn’t be overly noticeable or uncomfortable.

Is the birth control implant reversible?

When it comes to removal of the implant, Black explains, “It’s done under a local anaesthetic, a tiny incision…and we dissect it out. Most of the time we don’t need to put a stitch in after, we can just put tape over it.” It can be removed at any time, and is completely reversible. You can get pregnant as soon as it’s removed.

What are the potential side effects associated with Nexplanon?

The side effects of Nexplanon are similar to what you would see with other hormonal contraceptives, says Black. The top reasons why some people may avoid or discontinue the implant are irregular periods, mood changes, headaches and acne. Depression and weight gain have also been reported but those numbers are low.

Does Nexplanon protect against STIs?

Nope. Non-barrier birth control methods such as the implant or IUDs do not protect against sexually transmitted infections or diseases, so it’s always recommended to use condoms for STI protection.

Do you still get your period with the birth control implant?

“The best answer is that it’s known to be associated with changes in bleeding,” says Black. “Those changes can be very dependent on the woman.” Overall, Black says more than half of women do not get their periods with the implant. If they do have bleeding, it’s usually infrequent.

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Should I Get an IUD? https://fashionmagazine.com/wellness/hormonal-copper-iud-canada-insertion-side-effects-effectiveness/ Mon, 25 May 2020 19:49:08 +0000 https://fashionmagazine.com/?p=431530 The pros and cons of IUD birth control explained

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“Larissa,” a young woman with long, wavy blonde hair is dancing around her parents’ carpeted living room wearing a black-and-green-striped crop top and high-waisted leggings—and she’s literally singing the praises of her IUD in her TikTok video. She struts into a different pose for each caption: “My parents think I’m a whore,” “My gynaecologist thinks I’m a whore,” “Everyone thinks I’m a whore,” “But at least I’m responsible…and my boyfriend is happy.”

Of course, she’s not a whore—she’s also not alone among younger women wanting more effective birth control. Once at the bottom of the birth control pile, IUDs are becoming much more popular in Canada, particularly among younger demographics, says Dr. Edith Guilbert, a Quebec-city based physician clinical professor of Obstetrics and Gynaecology at Laval University who has specialized in family planning for nearly 40 years. While the Pill and condoms are still the most common overall, internal data from the Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada (SOGC) shows that about 10 percent of contraceptive users are now choosing IUDs. Even the Canadian Pediatric Society now says that IUDs should be the “first-line” birth control option for youth.

A big contributor to this trend is the fact that IUDs have come a long way from the archaic models your mom or grandmother may have had at some point during their fertile years. The clunky metal devices from the 1960s had to be big or they would literally fall out of a woman’s uterus. Now they’re much smaller, sleeker and perfectly shaped for a pre-baby uterus.

We spoke with Dr. Guilbert and other women’s health experts—as well as young people who have had both good and bad experiences with IUDs—to answer all your IUD questions, including understanding the benefits, risks and side effects, and how to decide if  getting one is right for you.

What is an IUD?

IUD stands for intrauterine device. It’s a T-shaped piece of flexible plastic about the size of a quarter that is inserted into a uterus to prevent pregnancy for anywhere from three to 12 years depending on what kind you get. An IUD is a long-acting and reversible contraceptive, with fine threads attached to it that come through the cervix into the vagina, which makes it possible for your healthcare provider to check the placement in your uterus and eventually remove it.

What are the types of IUDs?

There are two main types of IUDs: hormonal and non-hormonal, and both are more than 99% effective at preventing pregnancy. Hormonal IUDs (under the brands Mirena and Kyleena in Canada) release small amounts of  levonorgestrel, a form of the hormone progestin, into your body. Progestin is a synthetic version of the hormone progesterone, which your body produces naturally. These IUDs can stay in place between three to seven years.

Non-hormonal IUDs (under the brands Mona Lisa, Liberté and Flexi T in Canada) rely on copper—specifically a thin copper coil wrapped around the plastic T shape, which is why they’re also called the “copper IUD” or “copper T.” They can stay in place between five to 12 years.

How does an IUD work?

There is no single explanation for how IUDs actually work—but they do several things that combined together prevent pregnancy.

Hormonal IUDs work by thickening the cervical mucus and thinning the uterine lining, which stops sperm from both reaching and fertilizing an egg. It may also prevent  ovulation so there’s no egg for a sperm to fertilize. As Planned Parenthood puts it, “No egg = no pregnancy.”

Hormone-free copper IUDs don’t prevent you from ovulating, but the copper is toxic to sperm (yet perfectly safe for the person whose uterus it’s in). “It’s a very local reaction. It’s strictly inside of the uterus and it’s not very toxic,” explains Dr. Guilbert. “Sperm and eggs are fragile little things. They can die just by bumping into the vaginal wall.”

Since sperm doesn’t like copper, it stops the sperm from getting to the egg and from fertilizing it. It also causes inflammation in the uterine lining that may also prevent implantation, says Dr. Guilbert.

How soon after an IUD is inserted is it effective?

What makes the copper IUD special is that it is also the most effective form of emergency contraception when inserted within seven days of unprotected sex, says Dr. Guilbert, because of the way it messes with sperm movement and implantation.

How long until you can get pregnant after removing an IUD?

Your fertility is restored immediately after removing an IUD, which means you could try to get pregnant right away. But remember it takes the average young couple up to six months to conceive, and sometimes longer.

How much does an IUD cost?

Copper IUDs cost between $60 to $200 dollars, and hormonal IUDs cost $395 to $500 depending on whether the pharmacy marks up the cost. (Believe it or not, Costco is actually one of the cheapest places to buy your IUD, and you don’t need to be a member to use its pharmacy.) When you compare the cost of an IUD to the Pill, which is around $30 a month, IUDs are actually much cheaper if you use them for several years, as intended.

Some provinces will cover hormonal IUDs for those aged 24 and younger. Most people who have private drug benefits will have any kind of hormonal birth control covered, while copper IUDs may not be covered by any type of private or provincial health insurance because there is no drug in them.

What are the pros of getting an IUD?

There are many advantages of an IUD, the most important being superior birth control. IUDs are up to 20 times more effective than birth control pills, the patch or the vaginal ring, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. They’re  super convenient, so you “you set it and forget it”—for years, depending on what kind you get and the dosage of hormones or surface area of copper.

Hormonal IUDs can also make your periods lighter and your cramps more mild, or stop your period altogether. (More on that later.) Studies have shown IUDs are also linked to lower risks for gynecological cancers, including endometrial and ovarian cancers. Some people also find hormonal birth control helps clear up skin problems.

Coral Beaton, a 27-year-old aesthetician in Toronto, has been on the Mirena hormonal IUD for the last four years. She’s tried different birth control methods since when she was a teenager in Moncton, NB: first on the Pill, since she was told it would help with her acne and at the time she was in her first serious relationship. But one of the brands she was on made her moods “insane” and she would also forget to take them at the right times. Beaton eventually moved onto the NuvaRing, a vaginal ring you insert only once every cycle. But when the ring slipped out during sex one too many times for comfort, Beaton was intrigued to try an IUD. She heard only positive reviews from her friends and even her mom, and has had no regrets either.

“I thought if I’m going to be on birth control regardless, I want something that’s a little more permanent than the Pill or the NuvaRing. Something that I can have that peace of mind with and not have to deal with pregnancy looming in my brain,” she says. Beaton doesn’t have medical coverage either, so from a cost perspective, the IUD makes the most sense.

Can anyone get an IUD?

You may not be able to get an IUD if you have certain health issues. Some of the big ones are unexplained vaginal bleeding, a pelvic infection (caused by sexually transmitted bacteria that infects that reproductive organs) or liver tumour. Breast cancer, uterine cancer and cervical cancer would also exclude you from getting a hormonal IUD. It’s important to confirm you’re not pregnant before getting an IUD, because it can increase the risk of an ectopic pregnancy and miscarriage.

What are the possible side effects of an IUD?

Serious problems with an IUD are rare but some side effects may include irregular bleeding, sore breasts, acne, headaches, nausea and mood changes. There’s also a growing body of research that shows hormonal IUDs may be linked to anxiety and depression in some people. Dr. Sarah Hill, an evolutionary psychology researcher and the author of This Is Your Brain on Birth Control: The Surprising Science of Women, Hormones, and the Law of Unintended Consequences, says it would be impossible for sex hormones, not to affect your brain. Hill herself was on the Pill for nearly 12 years and only realized how the hormones were affecting her moods after going off of it. “I felt more multidimensional, like the world just felt brighter and more interesting,” she says. “I just felt more vibrant and had more energy to do things like exercising and even wanting to have sex, which I hadn’t really felt like doing in a long time.”

Some people may also experience mood changes after an IUD is removed, because that too can mess with your hormones. Scarlett Clayton*, a 37-year-old PR professional in Calgary, got the Mirena IUD six months after having a baby. While she says she noticed some moodiness, she couldn’t differentiate what was the IUD and what was just postpartum hormones. She had the Mirena in for a year and a half and liked it a lot—until she and her husband wanted to try for number two and she had it removed. “I was a freaking crazy person. I wanted to kill my husband, and there were a few times where I was walking down the street and thought to myself, What would happen if I just walked in front of that bus?” Clayton’s doctor said the intrusive thoughts were likely due to the withdrawal symptoms and a sudden drop in hormones. Luckily, she says they went away on their own after a few weeks.

Does getting an IUD hurt?

IUD insertion usually takes less than five minutes, but it can be painful or super uncomfortable so it’s good to know what to expect before you go in. Like a Pap test, a doctor or nurse will place a speculum into your vagina. Then, they’ll use a special inserter to put the IUD through the opening of your cervix into your uterus, and that can definitely hurt. (Perforation of the uterus is a rare risk during the insertion, happening in about one out of 1,000 women.) Your healthcare provider may recommend taking painkillers before the procedure and sometimes they’ll offer a local anaesthesia of the cervix. They will then remove the inserter and cut the threads at the end of the IUD, so they sit at the top of your vagina. (You should only be able to feel those strings *if* you reach for them with your fingers, more on this below.)

People usually feel pain and cramping after an IUD insertion as well, and that can last anywhere from a few minutes to a few days after the placement. Some people experience worse symptoms than others. “It was awful,” says Beaton, “But I would do it again, because now I don’t have to worry about anything for five years.”

Some practitioners may request that you come in for an IUD insertion when you’re on your period. Otherwise you may need to take a pregnancy test to ensure you’re not already pregnant.

How do you feel after an IUD placement?

Some people feel totally normal after an IUD placement, while others will continue to experience cramping, backaches and even extra menstrual bleeding immediately after the appointment. The IUD placement can also make you feel dizzy immediately after it’s put in, so it’s a good idea to have someone come with you to the appointment—and regardless of your symptoms, take the rest of the day off to chill and recover at home.

Does an IUD stop your period?

After a hormonal IUD placement, you may still have cramping and spotting, but this usually goes away within three to six months. Hormonal IUDs will eventually make your periods lighter and cramps milder. Many people stop getting their period altogether. So, if having a period is important to you for cultural, religious or any other reasons, a hormonal IUD might not be your best option.

Copper IUDs on the other hand usually make periods heavier and cramping worse, so if your periods are already heavy and cramp-y, copper likely won’t be recommended.

Can an IUD fall out?

There is a very small chance an IUD can shift or slip out of place partially or completely. It can happen at any time but is most common during the first few months of placement. If you feel anything is amiss, your doctor may recommend you check your strings, to notice if they seem shorter than usual, uneven or missing all together, but you should see your doctor as soon as possible. If you suspect your IUD has moved or fallen out—also known as expulsion—you may not be protected from pregnancy, so make sure you’re using a backup method of birth control until you get it checked or replaced.

Can you feel an IUD? Like during sex?

Neither you or your partner should be able to feel your IUD. If you do, it could be out of place, says Dr. Guilbert. Some women report that their partner can feel the strings during sex and if it’s causing an issue, you should ask your doctor about it. Strings cut too short or left too long may be bothersome, so it’s worth asking if any adjustments can be made.

Do IUDs protect against STIs?

IUDs do not protect against sexually transmitted infections. The only contraceptive that can do that is condoms. Your healthcare practitioner may check for STIs before placing an IUD, because active infections of chlamydia or gonorrhea could lead to pelvic inflammatory disease, which happens when the bacteria move upward from a woman’s vagina into her reproductive organs.

How do you decide if an IUD is right for you?

If you’re interested in an IUD, or any birth control for that matter, talk to your healthcare professional about the pros and cons of different contraceptive options—and they’ll probably do a better job of explaining than a 15-second TikTok video. They can speak to the effectiveness of each method and will take your medical history and preferences into account. The SOGC’s Sex and U site also has a quiz that will recommend the best types of contraception for you, based on personal factors such as sex, age, health risks, period symptoms, your history with different birth controls, your comfort level with hormones and how important it is for you not to get pregnant.

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